PORN STARS VS. HOUSEWIVES

When I wrote my first blog titled MY YEAR WITH A PORN STAR, I never realized just how strongly it would affect a percentage of my readers. I knew the topic was controversial, but to the point of ‘calling me out’ and demanding a retraction...well that had been totally unexpected. One camp, the professional porn stars, feel that I did not accurately portray a fair cross-section of their community, accusing me of just trotting out another of society’s stereotypical versions of an adult film star. The other camp, the stay-at-home housewives, felt that I portrayed them as naive, uninformed, and living their lives totally removed from reality. Neither were satisfied with my portrayals, and demanded that I pull my blog.

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PORN STARS VS. HOUSEWIVES

  

When I wrote my first blog titled MY YEAR WITH A PORN STAR, I never realized just how strongly it would affect a percentage of my readers. I knew the topic was controversial, but to the point of ‘calling me out’ and demanding a retraction...well that had been totally unexpected.

One camp, the professional porn stars, feel that I did not accurately portray a fair cross-section of their community, accusing me of just trotting out another of society’s stereotypical versions of an adult film star.

The other camp, the stay-at-home housewives, felt that I portrayed them as naive, uninformed, and living their lives totally removed from reality. Neither were satisfied with my portrayals, and demanded that I pull my blog.

In response, I’ve decided to list a collection of RIDICULOUS MYTHS that seem to follow both camps. These are myths that I’ve been subjected to my entire life from my contemporaries, modern media, and even through professionally published annals and learned educators. Let’s see if you’ve heard any of the following.

PORN STAR MYTHOLOGY

  1. Porn Stars are all bleach-bottle blondes with oversized silicone implants,  fake tans, fake nails, fake names, fake personas, and of course...fake orgasms.
  2. Porn Stars are all addicted to either one form or another of illegal, or, prescription drugs.
  3. Porn Stars are uneducated, have low I.Q.’s, and really have no other career options other than having sex for money on film.
  4. Porn Stars are also strippers by day and prostitutes by night.
  5. Porn Stars are continually plagued with a wide range of sexually transmitted diseases and will eventually die of AIDS.
  6. Porn Stars all suffer from either anorexia or bulimia and combine diet pills with liposuction to maintain their camera-ready-bodies.
  7. Porn Stars are all looking for someone to swoop in and rescue them from their predicament.
  8. Porn Stars rarely come from anything other than dysfunction families, and then continue the cycle with their own children.
  9. Porn Stars have never worked a day in their lives and spend all waking hours lounging between silk sheets, waiting for their next sexual encounter.
  10. Porn Stars party all night with musicians and celebrities, snorting cocaine and drinking champagne.
  11. Porn Stars are washed up in the business at the age of 21, and usually end up finishing their careers in mock snuff films.
  12. Porn Stars are incapable of long term relationships, as nobody can trust someone who has sex for a living.
  13. Porn Stars are all bi-sexual and will have sex with anyone, at anytime.
  14. Porn Stars all ‘find religion’ when they retire to help deal with their guilt after years of debauchery and immorality.

HOUSEWIFE MYTHOLOGY:

  1. Housewives are all fat, lazy, unmotivated, couch potatoes with ponytails, raggedy sweatpants, and food stained tee-shirts.
  2. Housewives continually blame their exploding waste lines on lingering baby weight, bad thyroids, or fluctuating hormones.Read More
  3. Housewives stuff their faces with chocolate, tranquilizers, and their kids leftovers by day; and then top it all off with red wine and a sleeping pills by night.
  4. Housewives are too lazy to hold down a real job, and choose to stay at home and pop out babies instead of working for a living and contributing to the family pot.
  5. Housewives all secretly hate their lives.
  6. Housewives are incapable of sexually satisfying, or pleasing their husbands.
  7. Housewives would run off tomorrow with the first hard body that proposed an affair.
  8. Housewives are desperate for attention, and spend hours online searching for anyone who’ll listen to their whining.
  9. Housewives have no ambitions, and as soon as the kids are off to school, they crawl back into bed and sleep till noon.
  10. Housewives are best kept at home, as most husbands are embarrassed of their wives anyway.
  11. Housewives usually end up divorced and living on court ordered payments, as their husbands eventually upgrade for a younger, better looking wife.
  12. Housewives spend their afternoons watching talk shows and reminiscing about how beautiful and popular they were back in high school.
  13. Housewives don’t even enjoy sexual intimacy, and would rather watch reality television and stuff themselves full of ice cream.
  14. Housewives have absolutely nothing happening in their own lives, so spend hours sharing gossip on the phone, living vicariously through others. 

Whether you personally know a porn star, a housewife, make a living in the adult film industry, or are a stay-at-home mom, I’m sure you can see how absolutely ridiculous this compiled list actually is. These are all horrible myths. They are hurtful, demeaning, and stereotypical. These samples of society’s prevailing mythology are not accurate representations of either group.

To recognize the mythology from one camp, we must be willing to acknowledge that there is corresponding mythology attached to the other camp.

In closing...every porn star I’ve ever spoken to has had some horrible experiences and at times second guessed their career paths and business associates. But to assume that all listed myths can be assigned to every single actor in the industry is a ludicrous concept.

It’s as ludicrous as assuming that every single housewife has her feet up on the coffee table with a sink full of dirty dishes while her kids are screaming for her attention as she flips through the television channels looking for her favorite soap opera.

Stereotypes are detrimental to those who perpetrate them, and to those who are conned into believing them. I do not recommend a career in the adult entertainment industry or recommend that women should be stay-at-home housewives. I believe that the choice is very personal, and should be made on an individual basis.

Posted by Lynne Martin on 24 February 2012

Lynne Martin is an avid movie collector and a staunch supporter of sexual education. She currently resides in Alberta, Canada with her husband and their large extended family.

Lynne has always been a fan of adult fiction and loves stories with a ‘behind the scenes’ feel to the writing. So when she chooses a topic for a novel, you can be sure that months, and sometimes even years, of hands-on research has gone into each and every project.

"I really want the reader to experience what I’ve experienced. To actually feel like they’ve been in the same room with my characters and have been witness to their private moments.

"You can’t fake that kind of storytelling. Either you’ve been there...or you haven't."

To learn more about LYNNE MARTIN, she can be reached through her website at this link.

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