Roses and Relationships

Relationship then takes on a different agenda, one that is more like the rose – a dance of budding and ripening and then hibernating in mock death only to be rekindles with the warmth of a new season’s sun.

Roses and Relationships

I went for a walk in a different park yesterday, the Qing Feng Park in the ZhongLou district of the city.  It took a bit of extra effort in locating the park, especially since I can’t read Mandarin characters.  The park is much different from the central park in ChangZhou, Hong Mei Park.  It’s more about trees, water and walking.  Of course, like everywhere in ChangZhou, there are flowers.  The first of the season’s roses are now beginning to bloom.  And so, I found this one which is for you, my readers.

This rose is symbolic to me of relationship.  I gave my wife three roses for a wedding bouquet almost forty years ago.  For me, the rose is also symbolic of the feminine.  The blossom reminds me of the pull that the feminine has upon the masculine, how one is drawn into the blossom in order to both find completion and to find extinction.

Like all healthy men, I get pulled into relationship with an “other” with the belief that the “other” compliments me, fulfills me, completes me.  I fall in love.  Like other men, I found that the “other” does not fulfill or compliment or complete.  Rather, the “other” is just that, another human doing the same thing.  We can only fulfill our “self”.  Only we can be responsible for our psyche, for our soul.  We cannot lay the responsibility for that on another person and use “love” as the excuse for not being self-responsible.

Relationship then takes on a different agenda, one that is more like the rose – a dance of budding and ripening and then hibernating in mock death only to be rekindles with the warmth of a new season’s sun.

 

Robert G. Longpré is well known among people interested in Jungian Psychology because of his excellent site, Through a Jungian Lens, parts of which are reproduced here by permission.  He says the following about himself:

"I am wearing a backpack in the photo because that is often how anyone would see me at this point in my life.  I am on a journey of soul, a journey in search of meaning and in search of self.  I am a retired school teacher and school administrator having taught in various schools in Saskatchewan, Canada.  I was a principal for a number of years as well.  Intermingled with my career in education was a second career as a psychotherapist.  Needing to take care of students with issues and later, teachers with issues, I took a number of university and certificate courses to allow me to work more effectively and safely with those whose care I was entrusted.  My counselling focus eventually shifted to include others and to include some “depth” work.  The depth work had a foundation in Jungian psychology.

"Now that I am retired, I am currently in Calgary, Canada working on my writing, my journey through a personal “Dark Night of the Soul” with my wife of forty-one years sharing most of my days and dreams.  Our children and grandchildren have their own homes in both Canada and the U.S.A.  For those interested in these things, I have three children and six grandchildren.

"Since retirement, we have travelled to a number of countries with some becoming places of part-time residence over the past five years. We lived in Changzhou, China for the better parts of four years.  Three months in Costa Rica during one winter, and three months in the Yucatan, Mexico during another winter were other longer stays during this time.  Added to this was a month in Rajasthan, India, a month in Thailand, and a month in IndoChina with most of that time spent in Vietnam.  This past winter break, I spent a a break of ten days in the Philippines.  Of course, if you are a reader here, you are already aware of these things as the selection of photos talk about my response to being in all of these places.  In travelling with a camera, I discover myself through images of both the known and the unknown."

May 1st, 2011 at 10:01 am

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Tagged with Changzhou, China, feminine, Jungian Psychology, love, masculine, other, psyche, Qing Feng Gong Yuan, relationship, rose, self, Sony A550 DSLR, soul, symbolism, ZhongLou

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